Patiently Waiting : Keisha Ofili

This is Keisha Ofili this is what she wrote as a way to help other girls:

This is her story as written by her…

PART 1

It all started off on Facebook. One simple add turns into a 3 year relationship. I could consider myself as easy going on Facebook I accepted any old friend request mainly from guys. Early June 2010 a guy added me but there was something different about him something…I wanted to know what it was that drew me closer to him. We spoke until 3:00am in the morning just getting to know each other then things got serious. I gave him my number and then that's when the conversations got deep. We spoke about past relationship, past hurts and also spoke about "our" future.

Couple weeks later we decided to take things to another level. Face to face. That's the first day our eyes met and to be honest with you I had no slight interest in him. I thought he was not my cup of tea. We were total opposites. We then took things to a whole new level. He popped the question “will you go out with me" - filled with all types of emotions I said yes, without thinking.

We had a really love hate relationship were he would do everything to please me and I wouldn't care much about his feelings. Whilst dating I found out that he was a church boy; this intrigued me because I thought "what would a church boy want to do with a girl like me.” He would invite me now and again to events but I just wasn't interested.

After a few months I soon joined the church, I was so amazed at how people were so welcoming, "people actually wanted God in their lives" I thought to myself. On the other hand as I looked at my boyfriend he was totally different. We would both come church and yet the things we did were contradictory to what we were taught in church. We both didn't have a problem with coming church and still living the wrong lifestyle behind closed doors. Things started to become really serious as we dated for a year and a couple of months.

I wanted something from him that I knew he was afraid to ask for. I had a wrong desire to sleep with him whilst we were going to church and listening to the messages that were preached every Wednesday, Friday and Sunday but yet I still had this hidden desire at the back of my mind "I really want to sleep with him"- the feelings that I never had for him were love and care so I figured if we sleep together I would probably like him a little bit more, care for him more…. 

 

After all the pressure we were home alone watching a movie and I told him this is what I wanted. He looked at me as if I was crazy.......... (TO BE CONTINUED)